Are Women Cheating More Than Men in 2022?

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Well, What a week!!

Let me set the scene for you.

We all know the worst nightmare is catching the person you love being disloyal. But the question I put out this week, are women cheating more than men in 2022, left my ears burning and my lips dry. I got chewed up and spat right back out by my fellow male counterparts. Of course I did. The men jumped on it fast and quick to swear blind that women today are 100% more disloyal.

We could go back and forth for months debating this topic but let's have a look at some statistics dating back to the 1990's. Research states that men have always been more likely to cheat than women with infidelity rates peaking amongst men aged 50-59 (31%) and women aged 40-49 (18%). Data from the General Social Survey (GSS) highlighted that 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sexual intercourse with someone other than their partner while married.

However, we are not talking about the 90’s are we?!!

We are discussing the millennial era of the “City Boys” and the “City Girls” which I'll go ahead and explain for those who are unaware of the above terminologies. According to the urban dictionary, a City Boy is a male who is living his very best life and chasing the bag at all times not letting “City Girls” or any female get in the way. Similarly, a City Girl don’t give a fuck ‘bout no man, in her bag one way or the other, is not a hoe but can easily be classed as one. She likes to have fun because life is for living.

Yes, you read it right and they are taking over.

A research study from 2018 found that women between the ages of 18-29 were more likely to cheat than men of the same age group. What changed? Is there a cause for the rising numbers in women who cheat?

“The gap shifted when women went to work and began making their own money and choices; with choices comes easier dissatisfaction,” voiced by sex therapist Angela Skurtu.

Over the years there has been an increase in responsibilities, therefore increasing the needs and the wants of the modern day woman. Can we also note that women are in a better position to seek out the sexual and emotional gratification that is lacking in their relationship. Nevertheless, infidelities could be committed for many reasons:

• Feeling unwanted by your partner

• Dissatisfaction in the relationship

• Anger or Retribution

• Looking for validation or proof that you are still valuable

• Bored and looking for some excitement

• Addicted to sex (needs not being met in the relationship)

• Opportunity

• That is who they are and just don’t deserve you

Whatever the case, there is always a reason.

“When women struggle to be honest about what they want with their partners and instead seek out a fantasy world that not only numbs but creates an amazing jolt to the system. An affair is an escape from your reality.” Angela Skurtu

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How To Confront Your Partner

It is always difficult to conduct yourself reasonably and with rationale when your heart is pounding, your blood is boiling and there is a knife wedged in your back. There is no rule book on how to confront your partner but here are a few things to be aware of:

• You can’t do it alone, your partner has to be ready and willing to discuss the situation

• Don’t ask for the details!!! Cheating is not the issue, you have to detect what’s under the surface. What is the real issue us between you and your partner?

• Be aware that it is going to be very emotional, make sure you are in the right state of mind to handle what is coming

• Be aware that asking too many questions may cause your partner to shut down or get defensive

• Don’t react impulsively - your life is not a reality show

I never said it was going to be easy but most importantly you have to know what you want. You cannot expect others to know what you have never spoken or expressed. Use your words! Talking openly and honestly with understanding are some of the best conversations you will have with you partner (very much dependant on the individuals involved).

So, are women cheating more than men in 2022?

Honestly, I don't think it is a clean yes or no. My thoughts? Women have always been cheating, the difference is that men were once too ashamed to admit in public that they had been cheated on. That has changed. The men of today are finally getting vocal about the toxic cycles in their own relationships.

Now I want to hear from you, and be honest with me. Do you think women are cheating more, or are we just talking about it more than we used to? If you have a story of your own, my comments are a judgement free zone. Drop it and let's talk properly. And go on, share this with the one friend you already know will have plenty to say.